Life

Life...

You only have one...but you know this right...you've accepted it...you understand it..You've let it soak into that brain of yours...

You've fully grasped it...right?


Denial:

• the action of declaring something to be untrue.

There are a few of us of course that believe in reincarnation, and if that's your belief, I fully respect that. There aren't many of us that would put up a solid arguement (and win) about how after we die we are certain we'll come back and start all over again.

For those of us that fall into the category of not believing in reincarnation though, there's another definition for the word denial.

In pshycology, denial is a condition in which someone will not admit that something (be it painful,sad etc) is true or real.

This is a "condition" more people suffer from than we realize.

How does this tie into my opening statement about life you ask.

Lets use you as an example. While reading this, right now. I want you to sit and think about what your dreams are. What you always wanted to achieve before you left this Earth one day. Could be to oneday travel the world, to start up your own business, to become whatever your heart's desire was when you were a little boy/girl.

Now once you have that thought locked in. Keep it there, and ask yourself. Am I doing it? Am I doing what I always planned on doing or am I atleast on my way to achieving what it is I set out to do.

If you aren't, ask yourself why. Is it because you've "grown up", you've been introduced to the "real world" and realized that your dreams were just that...dreams...Is it because you crossed paths with someone that be it during a conversation, an interview or just in passing, took all those pictures you had pasted up on your walls as a child. All those aspirations, and crushed it.


Let me give you some insight. You want to know what this world consists of?

It consists of people who's dreams and aspirations have in some or other way been crushed and as a result, spend alot of their time spreading that disease. Never living, only just existing.

If no one's ever told you this before...let me be the first.

You only have one life....There is only this....This is your one shot...

So one day, when you're done. Do you plan on returning to your maker saying "you didnt give me enough time", or will you atleast start making an effort now, to take advantage of every day given to you and use it as a stepping stone..a stepping stone, to life.


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The perfect figure?

If I asked what the perfect figure looked like, I'd probably be pointed in the direction of the nearest GQ or Cosmopolitan magazine.

 I find this quite sad, because as a society we've been convinced that such a thing actually exists. "The perfect figure". That one look that everyone should be striving for. The one look that once achieved, will bring you happiness.

Quick question, If there is such a thing as a "perfect figure" why are we as humans so physically different from each other? Also, Why didnt God (or whatever higher being you might believe in) know about this 'perfect figure' when he created us.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying go to your nearest Mcdonalds and sign up for a membership card. What I am saying though is that perfection is unique to each individual.

 Lets break down the phrase: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder for a quick minute.

• The phrase beauty is in the eye of the beholder, means that someone can be beautiful based on the person that is seeing it. It means that each person sees beauty in there own unique way.
• Beauty is subjective. 

Which brings me to my next point.

Another myth we seem to have convinced ourselves of is that if we don't have this "perfect" figure...It makes it so much harder to find someone to start a relationship with.

 FALSE!!

 There is someone out there for everyone. Sometimes we first have to end up with the wrong fit (maybe even a few times) to set you on the path to finding your perfect match...your nirvana..That's all part of the learning process.

You just have to be smart enough to know when to stop altering your genetic make up to become someone else's perfect...And trust me...you'll find someone that will love you for everything you are today...



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Sex...

Now this is not going to be some sleazy sex story I promise, but more of an insight if I can call it that. A learning opportunity. Now you may feel that whatever I'm about to say doesn't apply to you, but the first mistake you're probably making is being so sure you know everything there is to know about sex.

What you probably don't know is that when it comes to sex, its not so much about the physical act as it is about being able to arouse someone mentally and spiritually before the act of sex actually commences. Sex in itself is nothing but a follow-through on a promise you made, be it by eye contact, touch, or a sweet whisper in your ear that sent shivers down your spine.
Something as simple as staring into someone's eyes, says volumes where words aren't enough.


Please don't get me wrong, the physical part is an important part to be played, but having sex for the pure physical pleasure of it is the equivalent of an old man buying a Ferrari for "status" purposes. Sticking to the speed limit, never knowing the true potential of the power he possesses.
See, the mistake people(more so often guys) tend to make is that we think that as soon as its on, she's into it.

I mean no disrespect to woman at all when I say this but, expecting her to "be ready from the get go" is like jumping into your car on a cold winter morning and driving it at full throttle. Yep, it'll get you to work faster, the car will probably be fine, but you'll start questioning yourself when the car doesn't want to "go" when you expect it to after awhile.

Woman are delicate, beautiful creatures, and should be treated as such. So here are 2 very important points to remember when it come to sex:

• Much like forgiveness, sex is not for you.
• You will never master everything. If you think you have, you're a fool

It's not a race to see who gets to the mountain top first. Its about teamwork. It's about knowing what the right buttons are to push to achieve ultimate ecstasy.

What is love actually...

I'm sure we've all seen many different variations of what love actually is. Movies, books, music. We've heard and seen it all.

Society has come up with a "concept" if I can call it that of what love is supposed to look like. Anyone that doesn't have what society says you should have must clearly not understand love right?
Let me explain to you what love is in its most simple form. You might have questions or just down right disagree with what I'm about to say but by all means if you feel that way, please let me know.


We all know the saying: "God is love" right, but do we know how deep the definition of that saying actually goes?
Trust me when I say there's alot more to those three words than what you think.

I believe that we're all connected. Connected by something other than whats seen by the naked eye.
I also believe that as human beings, we're capable of loving more than one person at a time. Now before you raise your eyebrow and go checking the title again for the words "Confessions of a polygamist" give me a chance to explain.

For anyone that's really been "inlove", you'll know that it might be physical attraction that first drew you to your significant other, it might be conversation, but whats the one thing that kept you there? What's that one thing that still keeps you there while reading this?

The answer is simple.We see love in other people. We see God. Why are we so drawn to human interaction? Whether its with just one other person or one hundred people. Why can something as simple as a hug from someone when you having a bad day alter your mood or current emotion. We feel something, something that no scientist could ever explain. I'm sure if you do your research you'll find that your brain releases chemicals and thats what causes bla bla bla...but you and I both know that its much more than that.

We're able to love more than one person at a time because its in our nature. Love and compassion comes naturally. It's easier for you to feel sorry for a homeless person than to turn the other way. Society has just made it so much easier for us to ignore our basic instinct of love and compassion. If I'm wrong, explain why when you see someone less fortunate than you, your first instinct is to help out, before convincing yourself its the wrong thing to do.

On a side note, please understand that love and sex are two completely different things. Sex is a different topic completely. So when I speak about love I'm referring purely to the mental and spiritual aspect of it and not the physical.

Love is when two people come together and become one. As we become one, the love we had as individuals becomes greater. Allowing us to feel closer to one another, closer to God.

Simply put, Love is God...